Date Out of Your League
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Date Out Of Your League
CHAPTER 2: Playing The Numbers
Dating is about sales — Sales is a numbers game.
You will miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
— Wayne Gretzky
Romance is dead. Okay, it's not "dead-dead", but for the purposes of this chapter, let's just take it off the table and look at dating from a purely pragmatic, practical point of view—a concept that I call, "The Numbers Game".
If you want to immediately multiply your success in dating (or just about anything else)—learn, understand, and embrace the concept behind "The Numbers Game." It is based on the fundamental dynamics of dating, and it will save you a lot of time and heartache if you are willing to accept, grasp—and follow—its tenets.
The Tenets:
- You are a product.
- You are the product's salesman, its packager, and its advertiser.
- Women are your customers and they make their buying decisions based upon presentation, packaging, and advertising.
- Your personal style = packaging and advertising.
- The world's best salesmen don't have a 100% sales rate, or a 75% sales rate; nor do they have a 50% sales rate, or even a 25% sales rate. The world's best salesmen are lucky to maintain a 10% sales rate. 10% sales rate = one in every ten.
In other words, you put out the best product you can, and count yourself lucky if one out of every ten chicks you talk to—talks back.
Need another example? How about baseball? To equate dating to baseball may seem a bid outlandish at first glance, but when you really think about, it isn't really so far-fetched. Both require focus, tenacity, persistence, and a will to win. The more ambitious the goal, and the more coveted the prize, the harder you must work and the more you must be willing to risk.
Let's look at two of the world's all-time greats, Hall of Famer Hank Aaron and Barry Bonds.
Aaron holds the record for the number of homeruns at 755. True. Also true—Aaron struck out nearly 1,400 times, placing himself among the sport's leaders in futility as well as success.
And Barry? Well, as Bonds continues to pile up offensive records in his quest to overtake Aaron in home runs, the future Hall of Famer is also making a rapid ascent up the all-time strikeouts list.
Get the picture? You've got to swing the bat to get a hit. Even the world's best hitters fail to connect more than 60% of the time!
Can you imagine if every time Aaron or Bonds had stepped up to bat they put themselves through the psychological mind-fuck that you do every time you get ready to step up to bat with some chick? They wouldn't even touch first base, let alone round home plate. In fact, what you put yourself through is the equivalent of a young Bonds or a rookie Aaron thinking, "If I don't hit a home run on this next pitch—I have failed. I am a loser!"
I mean, come on! If they did that, there's no way they'd ever be anywhere near as successful as they are. No one can be effective under that kind of pressure, not a professional athlete, and not you. What I'm really asking here is that you change your perception of failure. How does one do that? Simple—change your attitude.
"ATTITUDE" ... The little word with a very big meaning. It carries more weight, power, and influence over your success (or failure) than anything else.
I'll tell you a little story about Bonny St. Dean who exemplified this idea. Bonny was born with one leg, but that never stopped her. She excelled at everything she did and even learned to ski so well that she participated in the 1984 Para-Olympics in Innsbrook, Austria. During the race she fell down, but immediately got up and kept going. She took third and won a Bronze Medal. When told that the Gold Medal winner also fell on the course, she commented, "If you fall down—you can still win the Gold—just be sure to get up faster!"
Here's one more example, just to drive it on home. Let's pretend that you own a Levi's franchise. Would you expect that every single sexy chick that walks into your store is going to buy a pair of your Levi's 501s?
Would you take it personally if you approached “Ms. Hottie” and asked, “Can I help you?” then she said, “No, thank you, I’m just looking,” and then proceeded to walk out of your store without purchasing? No, I really don’t think you would.
Dating is no different. Not every woman is going to buy you, just as not every woman is going to buy a pair of Levi’s. And I hope you can see now how ridiculous it seems to think they might! There will always be another customer, another potential sale, and yes, another hot, sexy chick.
OK. So if dating is all about sales, and sales is a numbers game, how
do you increase your odds of winning? Well, that is what the rest of
this book is about. Each chapter is a piece of the dating puzzle. By
the end of this book you will have accumulated all of the pieces, and
you will know the fundamental dynamics of dating, along with having
realized a strategic plan for implementation. All that will be left
for you to do is follow through.
Dating is a numbers game.
Commit to following through, and you will not only increase
your odds—you will have more than quadrupled your chances!
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